Jeet Panesar, a member of the family law team at Vienna Kang Advocates, shares some thoughts in this article about “Gaslighting”. Many people may have heard of the term “gaslighting”, but few understand what it really means.
What is Gaslighting?
Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse and occurs when a victim is controlled into thinking in a certain way, which in turn moulds their behaviour to suit the perpetrator.
What happens when you are gaslighted?
Common examples of gaslighting include:
- a victim’s own feelings being downplayed by the perpetrator;
- the perpetrator saying certain things to a victim, but later denying having said them at all;
- a victim being told that their memory of an event is wrong, even though it is right.
This emotional abuse can make a victim feel that everything is their fault and cause them to apologising when they were not at fault. It can lead to victims questioning their own sanity, becoming less confident, more anxious and isolated, and becoming distant from their friends and family.
Is there a link between Gaslighting and Narcissism?
Research shows that people who gaslight often have narcissistic tendencies. People with a narcissistic personality disorder can have feelings of self-importance, and often use manipulation for their own personal gain.
What can I do if I am a victim of gaslighting?
Unfortunately, many victims do not become aware that they have suffered this type of emotional abuse until after they have ended their relationship with the perpetrator.
If you feel that you have been a victim of gaslighting, and you would like to speak to someone in confidence about your legal options, then please get in touch with Jeet on J.Panesar@viennakang.co.uk or call our Family Law Team at Vienna Kang Advocates on 02476 932 025.